Hi i am sorry you are struggling, truly you are not alone nor are you failing ! I completely sympathise with you as I also have two children both boys which have a load of energy and some days I wish I could just take something to give me a burst of energy so I can keep up with them . I had a really difficult time with lots of flares a couple of years ago and I remembering feeling pretty low with the constant pain , fatigue and no energy but we do our best to continue on . I found taking them to parks , the swimming pool always a good go to so that I could sit on a bench or just move around in a pool while they went crazy letting off steam . I started Enbrel last year and since then have improve loads . The pain isn’t as constant and so far no big flares just my knee that niggles when I have over done it . It is difficult trying to find the right balance between being a mum , working and living with A.S , it defiantly is a roller coaster Journey ! I have found over the years that we need to take time out for us too even if just for a hour to two for some stretching , swimming , massage or what ever it is that you find helpful to relax . Seeking holistic routes I find helpful for my mental and then in return physical . Remember we didn’t ask for A.S it’s what we got dealt but you will find the right things for you that help , like just being on here to have that support from others is a great start . Wishing you well and sending hugs .